28. Ego Kills Love
Without Patricia, the Chief and I chatted for a while in his office about an important theological matter. After, and immediately before exiting the Gatekeeper’s Lodge, I made, with the Chief present, some concluding remarks aimed at Patricia. These last points, which, more or less, follow, were a gloss of what the Chief and I had discussed:
Egotistical individuals lose out on real love because love gives, while self-centered egotism takes. (Here, an egotistic person is defined as someone selfishly insisting that he or she is right despite the evidence suggesting or proving otherwise. Egotism, therefore, is not to be mistaken for steadfastly upholding a righteous principle.)
Moreover, truth is love’s basis. Consider: love is an objectification, since love requires an object to love. (One loves one’s children, spouse, parents, friends, community, nation, planet, and so forth.) With truth, that is, with an honest revelation of self, one is able to be objectified, and thereby, loved due to such truths establishing genuine characteristics that can be appreciated by those who admire such traits.
In contrast, when an egotistical person conceals or ignores the truth about him- or herself, who can know the genuine self of such an egotist? Because only the image but not the real self of an egotist can be identified, an egotist cannot be truly loved because the deep, inner workings of such a person’s mind cannot be objectified. Thus, those who operate on their egos more than on honesty, by their pretending to be people whom they are not, forfeit love in this secondary manner. Liars give up love!
Returning to my leaving of the Gatekeeper’s Lodge, at that specific time, with a measure of awe, I realized that a key had been given to defeat Satan! Relaying as much to both Patricia and the Chief, I said that Satan can be defeated because the prevention of embarrassment is what fuels the ego—but, now, egotistical people can be made to realize the embarrassment of egotism in that it is foolish to trade true love for something of lesser worth, that is, for either the immature psychological or the fleeting material gains of egotistical behavior.
Why are the psychological gains immature? Because egotistical people naturally surround themselves with either sycophants or fools who either do not wish to or cannot see through their charade. From these sorts, true love cannot be found. Why are egotism’s material gains fleeting? Because egotism is competitive, survival-of-the-fittest behavior; and, those existing competitively succumb, sooner or later, to the same literal or metaphorical swords by which such someones once lived.