Dedications to love
To a Friendly Man in San Antonio, Texas
Many years ago, I was exploring the glorious River Walk in San Antonio, Texas. There, I eventually wandered into a lovely residential area beside the Walk. On one of the front lawns, many people were gathered for a wedding party; and, when I passed, a man, seeing me from the fence’s other side, was friendly enough to invite in me, a total stranger. Gratefully, I accepted. Later, when I revealed that I was a theologian, I was, also, invited to make a toast. Again, I accepted; and, with a rendition similar to the following, I expounded upon the divine principle of loving thy neighbor as thyself as it pertains to a marriage:
Conflict breaks apart relationships. Therefore, little if any inappropriate friction is what makes a marriage or a relationship last. Because oppression and unfairness cause conflict, once a couple is truly committed, the only way to minimize or eliminate such friction is by each spouse looking after the best present and future interests of both the other and him- or herself. Of course, by so caring, not only will there be less inappropriate friction and frustration, there will be greater love. Consequently, extra love and less frustration generate more of the type of friction that is appropriate.